Take time to Learn to Massage your Partner and you’ll Develop a Better Relationship
You know the way it is, you both have had a hard day, you come home and all you want to do is chill out and relax. You and your partner end up lying for an hour or two in front of the TV and then going to bed, to get up the next day and do it all over again.
I’m going to tell you how you and your partner can be SUPER relaxed, have a better relationship, AND improve your intimacy, and you can both learn this in just a few hours.
If you learn how to massage each other, you can have a better relationship, more intimacy, and feel far better than you ever have.
If you’ve ever had a massage then you’ll know that totally chilled out feeling you have when it’s over – your body just feels totally relaxed and rejuvenated – well, imagine having that on tap any time you want it! All you need to do is take a basic course in massage – (we have a free e-book to get you started with the basics, and then you can move on from there – details at the bottom of this post)
Here’s some tips to get you started:
1. Turn off the TV, the phone, the computer, and everything else which will be any sort of a distraction. You’re going to focus on relaxing for just an hour. Get some candles (scented ones are good), and put on some relaxing music / sounds. Take an hour out from life – you deserve it.
2. Decide where you’re going to massage your partner – a proper massage table is best as it will provide good support, but the bed will be fine if you don’t want to invest in a proper table at this stage. As long as it’s comfortable to lie on, and just as importantly comfortable for you to give the massage.
3. Make sure your partner is lying comfortably – use cushions underneath as required, and a pillow or rolled up towel to support their head. Use a sheet or towels to cover whatever parts of their body you are not massaging at any time. You don’t want them getting cold or feeling subconscious about their body being exposed – this is all about them being relaxed, after all.
4. The neck and shoulders is where a lot of tension gathers, and you should focus on these areas first. And just ask if there are any other areas where they feel tense. Until you’ve had a bit more training, for now just rub in circular motions, applying gentle pressure.
5. Now that I’m on the subject of asking – you should ask for feedback as to how you’re doing. How does that feel? Does that feel good? etc.And do more of what feels good for them.
6. Here’s a simple tip from the professionals: Always keep one hand on your partner’s body at all times, even when you’re changing position or walking around. Why? It’s a psychological thing – it’s more relaxing if they always feel your touch, rather than have it taken away and then come out of nowhere. Sounds silly, but it works.
7. Finish off by using your fingertips to lightly brush over your partner’s skin, moving from the centre (i.e. the heart), and out to the extremities. Imagine you’re collecting and brushing lightly away any negative energies and removing them from their bodies. End each movement by gently shaking your hands (to free these negative energies from your fingers)
And you’re done. Your partner should be totally relaxed, and may even be asleep – that’s the idea. Remember, the idea is to take an hour out from life!
Just place a light blanket over them, and think about the fact that it’s your turn next!
Here’s an idea – why not learn this and surprise your partner on a special occasion with your new-found skills!
Do this on an ongoing basis and you’ll feel closer to each other, more intimate, and much more relaxed. After not too long you should feel a difference in your general well-being too, and that’s for another post.
For now, enjoy!
We have a free ebook where you can learn the basics of 3 of the most popular types of massage, and you can get started within the next few minutes.
Download your Free Learn Massage Ebook here
